A man wearing a navy baseball cap and a gray shirt that reads "Out of the Darkness community walks" stands along light rail tracks with a train passing behind him
Several Saturdays in the spring and fall, Steve Siple joins other locals in Charlotte, North Carolina, to pick up trash along the city鈥檚 light rail lines. The volunteers typically clear about a mile of the trail before ending at a brewery to celebrate and socialize. It鈥檚 one of several ways Siple prioritizes social connection. (A.M. Stewart for 麻豆女优 Health News)
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Trivia Nights, Valentine鈥檚 Cards: Overlooked Social Connections Can Prevent Suicide

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Nearly every Tuesday for a decade, Steve Siple attended a bar trivia night with friends in Birmingham, Alabama. After moving to North Carolina, he developed a new ritual 鈥 on Saturdays to pick up trash along the city鈥檚 light rail.

These are more than fun outings to Siple. They help keep him alive.

Siple has battled suicidal thoughts in the past. He lost his father to suicide, and one of his sons has struggled with thoughts of hurting himself.

That鈥檚 made Siple vigilant about protecting himself and his family. In addition to seeing a counselor regularly and speaking openly about mental health, he prioritizes social connection.

鈥淟oneliness was, over my lifetime, one of the greatest risk factors鈥 for suicide, said Siple, a for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.

To some, this concept may seem obvious. Yet in the overall approach to suicide prevention, it鈥檚 often overlooked. Treatment of a serious mental illness that can lead to suicide, such as major depressive disorder, often centers on medication and talk therapy with little or no consideration of factors such as social isolation or financial duress. Now, there鈥檚 a growing movement to address loneliness not just through personal choices but also through public policy.

The research is clear: Among the various complex issues that contribute to suicide, is a . It鈥檚 a for older adults, who have and for youths, for whom .

Humans are social animals. When we feel cut off from one another, our , our , and ultimately we鈥檙e (by suicide or ). An concluded that being socially disconnected is as harmful to one鈥檚 health as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.

And it鈥檚 getting worse.

Mental health researchers and clinicians say a variety of factors are in America, including the , such as smartphones and ; increased ; the since the covid pandemic; and .

With suicide rates remaining stubbornly high 鈥 often ranking among the in America 鈥 some advocates and people who have lost loved ones to suicide say increasing pathways to social connection could be a new frontier.

In this ongoing series, 麻豆女优 Health News is examining new approaches to suicide prevention that shift the focus from stopping harm in moments of crisis to efforts that give people reasons to live well before they make fateful choices.

鈥淚f we want to reduce suicide rates in our country, which is absolutely essential, then a key part of that has to be fostering social connection,鈥 said who served as surgeon general under Presidents Barack Obama and Joe Biden. 鈥淲e have more than enough data to support this as being an important area of focus.鈥

In 2023, Murthy released the first on loneliness as a public health issue, with more than 300 supporting citations. He鈥檚 also on the topic and is touring the country discussing the value of social connection.

鈥淭o help someone else feel less alone, to help them feel seen and understood and valued,鈥 he told 麻豆女优 Health News, 鈥渢hat can be one of the most powerful interventions that we make.鈥

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Steve Siple holds a photo of his father and his son. Siple鈥檚 father died by suicide in 2001. (A.M. Stewart for 麻豆女优 Health News)

A Role for Elected Officials

Curing loneliness may seem like the responsibility of families and neighbors, people making one-to-one connections. But Murthy says elected officials have work to do, too.

They can use their bully pulpits to turn this into a mainstream issue, he said. They can create microgrants to support grassroots ideas from community entrepreneurs and invest in 鈥渟ocial infrastructure,鈥 he added.

That term refers to things in the community that support the development of social connection, from physical spaces, such as libraries and parks, to policies and programs, such as building public transportation and fostering volunteer groups.

鈥淭hese all matter and impact whether people gather,鈥 Murthy said.

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However, investing in public institutions and infrastructure is a costly endeavor that can seem unreasonable when local officials are struggling to balance budgets without increasing tax burdens.

That鈥檚 where creativity can kick in.

A health system and a museum in Charlotte have teamed up to for people to attend art classes or live performances together. In Tennessee, the city of Chattanooga is funding community ideas to increase connection and time in nature, where people can speak with volunteer listeners. And across the country, have popped up as places where men can work on projects side by side and discuss their mental health.

Meal Deliveries and Valentines

Marcie O鈥橬eal knew she wouldn鈥檛 have much money at her disposal. She was hired in 2024 to lead suicide prevention efforts in the rural of western Kentucky after local leaders saw a rise in suicides among the elderly. Her grant was about $280,000 鈥 less than .

A woman wearing a pink v-neck shirt smiles and holds up a card that reads "you are kind" as she stands in front of a table
Denise Porter holds one of the cards that high school students send to older people in western Kentucky鈥檚 Pennyrile region as part of local suicide prevention efforts. Program leaders say the goal is to help these residents feel less isolated and empower youths to feel they can make a difference in their communities. (Marcie O鈥橬eal)

But she knew the nine-county area had other strengths, such as dedicated meal delivery programs and high school clubs.

Drivers who drop off prepared meals to homebound residents 鈥渃an be the only person that an older adult sees in the week,鈥 O鈥橬eal said.

The state had already been training some of those drivers to recognize warning signs of suicide among older people and alert county agencies to follow up with them. O鈥橬eal thought there could be another component.

She reached out to high school , which focus on fostering leadership skills and volunteerism, across the nine counties and asked them to write cards that could be distributed to older residents along with meals. The response was swift, O鈥橬eal said.

About 1,200 cards were delivered last May. They repeated the gesture in February for Valentine鈥檚 Day and again this May.

O鈥橬eal said one of the older residents told her, 鈥淚 don鈥檛 remember the last time I got a Valentine鈥檚 card.鈥

The students also enjoyed feeling as if they made a difference, O鈥橬eal said. She鈥檚 helping one school set up an ongoing pen pal program with a nearby retirement community.

Locals affectionately call O鈥橬eal 鈥渢he suicide lady鈥 鈥 a term she considers 鈥渁 badge of honor.鈥

Suicide prevention 鈥渄oesn鈥檛 have to be sweeping huge things,鈥 she said. 鈥淚t鈥檚 a little thing you can do that can kind of snowball into more things.鈥

鈥楾he Secret Sauce鈥

Siple, who has prioritized social connection through the trivia nights and volunteer clean-ups, felt most alone when he transitioned from a job at a commercial bank to working at home.

He spent most of his day analyzing Excel sheets, drafting grant proposals, and compiling recommendations for clients. The work felt important, but it was isolating, Siple said.

鈥淚f my wife or kids were around during the evening, I was safe,鈥 he said. Holding meetings at coffee shops helped, too.

But when it was just him at his desk, 鈥渢hat鈥檚 where I got the darkest lonely feelings,鈥 he said, including thoughts of suicide.

Breaking out of that required seeking new connections.

Siple said church was a great anchor for him and his wife 鈥 not just on Sundays but throughout the week at Bible studies and potlucks. They also go to see a variety of live music, including bluegrass and alternative rock.

鈥淏eing with folks that are into the same type of music that we鈥檙e into for a concert feels like connection,鈥 he said.

A man wearing a navy baseball cap and glasses stands in front of a green bush and looks off to the side of the frame
鈥淟oneliness was, over my lifetime, one of the greatest risk factors鈥 for suicide, says Siple, a former board chair for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. (A.M. Stewart for 麻豆女优 Health News)

Research suggests sports can play a similar role in some instances. At least two studies have found are associated with . The authors posit it鈥檚 because people coming together to support their team or to enjoy the event creates a sense of belonging, which is protective.

That concept resonates with , who has worked on suicide prevention efforts at the state and and helps run Sources of Strength, an upstream prevention program. Fostering that sense of belonging has played a central role in each of those initiatives, she said.

鈥淲e can鈥檛 eliminate hard stuff in our lives,鈥 said Brummett, who lost five friends to suicide, starting in middle school.

鈥淏elonging is really the secret sauce,鈥 she said, 鈥渇or how we, as humans, can navigate really hard things.鈥

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